•Nowadays, annulment or
separation is not an issue for some married couples. Based on my observations,
miscommunication between them is one of the factors why couples arrive to such
decision. Miscommunication can lead to many problems that can ruin the relationship
of the couple. It can lead to many expectations that one seeks from his/her
partner. If those expectations were not met, it will cause misunderstanding
between them which leads to many problems and arguments.
2. What do you think is the best
way so couples won’t argue with duties and responsibilities at home?
•To avoid having arguments at
home, couples must have equal distribution of duties and responsibilities. They
should have proper communication to keep themselves from fighting. With equal
assignment of chores, they can avoid arguing on who did better. Couples can
refrain from ranting and complaining on each other. They can live in a much
harmonious relationship if proper communication and balanced distribution of
tasks are present in the first place.
The How’s, What If’s and If
ever’s
1. How are men and women’s roles
portrayed in the story?
•As portrayed in the story, men are responsible for working outside to earn a living for his family. On the other hand, women are expected to stay at home and do all the household chores. Before, men are expected to be stronger than women. Women do not have the right to choose what they want because they have no other choice but to stay at home.
2. What strengths and weaknesses
of both parties are shown by Colendrino in her story?
•As shown in the story, men usually have the sense of superiority and authority because they are the head of the family. However, it was also shown that men's weakness is their wives; they are afraid of their wives especially when they started nagging and became angry. On the other hand, women tend to be braver than their husbands because they believe that they are always right. What serves as their weakness is they become impulsive; they let their emotions control their actions, without even thinking the consequences.
3. For Females: Do you agree that
wives should just stay at home and take care of house hold chores? What is your
stand on “women are for domestic purposes only”?
•As a woman, I highly disagree
that “women are for domestic purposes only.” First, men and women should be
treated equally. We should have equal rights and treatments in our society.
Second, women do not deserve to just stay at home and do all the household
chores. We are not maids. We are not robots. Third, we have the right to be
educated and to achieve our dream jobs. Over the years, I also think that women
have proven many things and achievements that can justify our value in the
society. Women can do what men can.
4. If ever problems arise in the
family, how do you think should married couples deal with those?
•Married couples should handle
well whatever problem they will encounter. Each of them should talk about their
problems first before doing any decision. They should have proper communication
within their relationship to avoid making things worse.
5. As children, what do you think
are your roles whenever you see your parents fighting?
•As children, we should serve as
a balancer or equalizer when our parents are fighting. We should help them to
resolve their problem as soon as possible. We should not take any sides; talk
to them first and understand each. Let ourselves be the key to a healthier
relationship between our parents and among the family.
6. What are the common problems faced
by married couples nowadays? How do they solve their problems?
•Based on my observation, problems
which are commonly faced by married couples nowadays include financial problems
and/or having a third party in their relationship. Oftentimes, these are the
reasons why married couples argue a lot, and worst, the causes of separation. However,
parents who are responsible and who consider most the welfare of their family
often solve these problems by having proper communication and understanding. They
do not let anger destroy their relationship easily. Also, planning and equal
distribution of expenses of the family help them to resolve their financial
problems. When it comes to third party issues, he/she should remain loyal to
his/her partner and his/her children at all times.
